Getting Over It
Well, I know some of you have been hurt by others whether they are your friends or love ones…
I had been crushed by two guys whom I like on the same day and I managed to get over it in some ways but it still remains in me. I thought of sharing how I got over the major stage (just after receiving the bad news).
After receiving the news, it is either you start to cry or remain silent. You don’t know what to do next and probably asking yourself why is this happening. Wondering where is this problem lying in you. You just tend to feel lost at this point, not wanting to do anything but just sit/lay there stoning.
I would say that is normal so here are some of my advices (I can’t guarantee that it will work 100% for you)…
1. Quit listening to love and slow songs, it doesn’t help much but to make you cry and think about it. You’re just rubbing it more in. Don’t listen to the songs related to your ex.
2. INSTEAD, listen to fast beat loud songs that make you jump to the beat, get the hang of it, release it jump and make yourself happy, go running or jogging with this sort of song. DAMN you got to release that moment and not think about it. You’re building your motivation and knowing that you have the strength and will to carry on…
3. You may want to keep all of your problems to yourself and feelings for the person. This is what you should do...well, you got that right, it is the SAME OLD advice that everyone gives, DON’T BOTTLE IT UP BUT SHARE IT WITH SOMEONE…truly, someone whom you trust well, simply just share your story and even if you’re not really that close to that friend but somehow you trust this person, there will be a bond built between the two of you. BUT don’t go all so detailed like what you and your ex usually do if you know what I mean…You can if you want but that could be the later part.
4. Don’t hate the person if he/she was the one who broke your heart. I have this saying, ‘It isn’t worth losing a friend than making enemies, no one is my enemy’ What I’m stating is, don’t hate the person but continue this friendship, it maybe his/her lose for breaking off with you. There is always a reason and face it, whether you believe in fate or not somehow it just happen one way or another. Don’t bother trying to get back or such if the other party doesn’t want to then someone has to give up as it is going no where.
5. Whether you’re a guy or a girl, it is alright for you to cry and truthfully it helps A LOT. You can cry behind close doors anything, cry in the middle of the night, in the dark like what I usually do, it really helps and the next day, you feel a little better.
6. Please please, it isn’t worth thinking and thinking and thinking about it until you hate the person or even yourself. You may love the person so much that somehow you thought of suicide. Hmm…OK, you’re trying to escape that way, escaping the pain then I got to say, that was your weak point which was probably the reason to your break up. Besides, even if you kill yourself, do you think your ex will be like upset forever? Well…for that moment of period, the guilt will linger and being upset but somehow they will get over it. NEVER think of suicide, just not worth it…you probably just missed a chance of meeting someone great.
7. Maybe you’re tired of waiting for someone to come by, DAMN…why don’t you go find something fun to do and keep your mind away from it, be busy then SURELY someone will come by/approach you without you noticing it/going after.
8. Don’t drown yourself in alcohol and other bad stuff just to release, ALCOHOL is known as a depressant so don’t and please don’t make your liver ‘scream’ and suffer. I can’t stop you like what rights do I have, go ahead and drink if you like to suffer from hangovers every morning, liver problems hmm…guess you have too much money to spend on medication. Maybe you don’t have that sum and say, ‘Hmm…maybe it is a good way to die’ or maybe ‘just let me die, hack do I care. She/He doesn’t love me anymore, what do I have to lose?’ You’re a DUMBARSE I have got to say, where have all of your brain cells gone to? You know, in this world, no one is stupid in everything, and I believe that you’re not that stupid to do so.
9. If you have been crying months and months over it, I have this saying, ‘Do not cry over someone who doesn’t shed a tear for you.’ Keep the motivation going and have that strong will, brave it up but don’t always make yourself suffer by putting up a brave front/façade. Somehow you will show it one day, so like I say, don’t bottle it up but share it.
10. Can’t forget the person? I’m telling you not to forget the person but, just put it at the back of your mind and not think about it. Thinking about it just makes you cry again…sheesh, unless you enjoy crying. This, you can’t forget…no matter what you do or even how much you try, you will not be able to forget what happened. Simply just put it at the back and not think about it. If you start thinking about it, just try to remind yourself that you shouldn’t and you don’t want to cry. Keep yourself busy so you won’t think about it, think about something else.
OK, those are just some LONG LONG basic advice which I know you have probably come across before but just try to get along with it, K? Cheery up and NEVER let it get down on you. Do not let it affect your career or maybe studies et cetera coz that shouldn’t be an excuse for the poor performance but more of a BAD excuse.
Thatz about it so…
Take care.
Veel Plezier.
Christine.
I had been crushed by two guys whom I like on the same day and I managed to get over it in some ways but it still remains in me. I thought of sharing how I got over the major stage (just after receiving the bad news).
After receiving the news, it is either you start to cry or remain silent. You don’t know what to do next and probably asking yourself why is this happening. Wondering where is this problem lying in you. You just tend to feel lost at this point, not wanting to do anything but just sit/lay there stoning.
I would say that is normal so here are some of my advices (I can’t guarantee that it will work 100% for you)…
1. Quit listening to love and slow songs, it doesn’t help much but to make you cry and think about it. You’re just rubbing it more in. Don’t listen to the songs related to your ex.
2. INSTEAD, listen to fast beat loud songs that make you jump to the beat, get the hang of it, release it jump and make yourself happy, go running or jogging with this sort of song. DAMN you got to release that moment and not think about it. You’re building your motivation and knowing that you have the strength and will to carry on…
3. You may want to keep all of your problems to yourself and feelings for the person. This is what you should do...well, you got that right, it is the SAME OLD advice that everyone gives, DON’T BOTTLE IT UP BUT SHARE IT WITH SOMEONE…truly, someone whom you trust well, simply just share your story and even if you’re not really that close to that friend but somehow you trust this person, there will be a bond built between the two of you. BUT don’t go all so detailed like what you and your ex usually do if you know what I mean…You can if you want but that could be the later part.
4. Don’t hate the person if he/she was the one who broke your heart. I have this saying, ‘It isn’t worth losing a friend than making enemies, no one is my enemy’ What I’m stating is, don’t hate the person but continue this friendship, it maybe his/her lose for breaking off with you. There is always a reason and face it, whether you believe in fate or not somehow it just happen one way or another. Don’t bother trying to get back or such if the other party doesn’t want to then someone has to give up as it is going no where.
5. Whether you’re a guy or a girl, it is alright for you to cry and truthfully it helps A LOT. You can cry behind close doors anything, cry in the middle of the night, in the dark like what I usually do, it really helps and the next day, you feel a little better.
6. Please please, it isn’t worth thinking and thinking and thinking about it until you hate the person or even yourself. You may love the person so much that somehow you thought of suicide. Hmm…OK, you’re trying to escape that way, escaping the pain then I got to say, that was your weak point which was probably the reason to your break up. Besides, even if you kill yourself, do you think your ex will be like upset forever? Well…for that moment of period, the guilt will linger and being upset but somehow they will get over it. NEVER think of suicide, just not worth it…you probably just missed a chance of meeting someone great.
7. Maybe you’re tired of waiting for someone to come by, DAMN…why don’t you go find something fun to do and keep your mind away from it, be busy then SURELY someone will come by/approach you without you noticing it/going after.
8. Don’t drown yourself in alcohol and other bad stuff just to release, ALCOHOL is known as a depressant so don’t and please don’t make your liver ‘scream’ and suffer. I can’t stop you like what rights do I have, go ahead and drink if you like to suffer from hangovers every morning, liver problems hmm…guess you have too much money to spend on medication. Maybe you don’t have that sum and say, ‘Hmm…maybe it is a good way to die’ or maybe ‘just let me die, hack do I care. She/He doesn’t love me anymore, what do I have to lose?’ You’re a DUMBARSE I have got to say, where have all of your brain cells gone to? You know, in this world, no one is stupid in everything, and I believe that you’re not that stupid to do so.
9. If you have been crying months and months over it, I have this saying, ‘Do not cry over someone who doesn’t shed a tear for you.’ Keep the motivation going and have that strong will, brave it up but don’t always make yourself suffer by putting up a brave front/façade. Somehow you will show it one day, so like I say, don’t bottle it up but share it.
10. Can’t forget the person? I’m telling you not to forget the person but, just put it at the back of your mind and not think about it. Thinking about it just makes you cry again…sheesh, unless you enjoy crying. This, you can’t forget…no matter what you do or even how much you try, you will not be able to forget what happened. Simply just put it at the back and not think about it. If you start thinking about it, just try to remind yourself that you shouldn’t and you don’t want to cry. Keep yourself busy so you won’t think about it, think about something else.
11. Go looney when you're down it seriously sort of relax and release in some ways, talk crazy with your friends
12. Write poems or stories, this is the point where your feelings and emotions come into play, they aren't wasted just by tears, this is the GREAT TIME to come up with something awesome for someone to read and maybe appreciate your work. It helps you to put your feelings and not keep it within you.
OK, those are just some LONG LONG basic advice which I know you have probably come across before but just try to get along with it, K? Cheery up and NEVER let it get down on you. Do not let it affect your career or maybe studies et cetera coz that shouldn’t be an excuse for the poor performance but more of a BAD excuse.
Thatz about it so…
Take care.
Veel Plezier.
Christine.
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